enjoy real conversation when it is taking place. enjoy the peaceful solitude and presence of silence between. a life does not need to be defined by the amount of words a person can pour out of their face. listening to others is well and good but taking it all to heart no matter what, is not. learning from this, a person can realize the mind is a tool and can be set aside, just like any other. switched off. (look into eckhart tolle's works.) in this way, the objects we call thoughts will fade, and a true experience or sense of being can be realized. try it. start with simple breathing exercises. he is pretty insightful. www.eckharttolle.com